This is the Christmas Season and even though there is  a lot of love being spread around there are still some "issues".  Some of them were pre-existing, others surfaced during the holidays.  Whatever they are life is too short to live with them.

There are so many wonderful things to enjoy we can't afford to rent out space in our mind to resentment or guilt.  I held a grudge against someone for a long time until one day I realized the person I had a problem with probably didn't know my mood changed everytime I thought about him.  Even worse, he probably didn't care.  The thought of him and/or the incident hijacked my thoughts and changed me into someone I didn't want to be.  I finally decided to do something about it.  So I forgave him - it wasn't that simple but it sure felt good.  It didn't matter that I was letting him off the hook - he didn't know it.  I was doing it for me - so I could have all of my life back and after a while I could give the person who caused me so much discomfort a free pass through my thoughts.  I didn't lay awake at night thinking about how to get even or start raving every time the subject came up.  Actually, I hadn't let him off the hook - I had let me off the hook.  Merry Chrismas - Happy New Year.